Ruining the Heart

For if because of food your brother is hurt, you are no longer walking according to love. Do not destroy with your food him for whom Christ died. (Romans 14:15 NAS95)

If your brother or sister is being injured by what you eat, you are no longer walking in love. Do not let what you eat cause the ruin of one for whom Christ died. (Romans 14:15 NRSV)

If your brother or sister is being injured by __________, you are no longer walking in love. Do not let __________ cause the ruin of one for whom Christ died.

If we think that the only thing Paul is referring to here is meat vs. vegetables or opinions about the importance of feast days we have completely missed the whole point of this passage. For the principle that Paul is presenting is far greater than the illustrations that he chose to convey it. The bottom line issue that is so important to grasp is that the effect of my spirit and my choices and my actions on others is a very high priority in God's opinion.

I don't think that this to be extended to mean that my life must be dictated by the prejudices and misconceptions of everyone around me or anyone who might happen to be passing by. My Christian life cannot be shaped and determined solely by the bigoted, narrow and fear-based beliefs of those with very messed up pictures of God in their minds.

But on the other hand I am not to ignore the potential strong reactions in the minds and hearts of others with whom I may have significant influence. If someone is looking to me to be an example of what it looks like to be a Christian and they are still locked in bonds of ignorance and superstition about things that I have long since become free from, it is not O.K. for me to just think that I can live free from all responsibility for the effect my actions have on their heart. In other words, it is clearly my responsibility to do everything I can to protect the reputation of Jesus by carefully avoiding unnecessarily wounding a person's heart who is trying to struggle through issues and confusion that are no longer a problem for me.

Listen to the description of Jesus and the way He relates to people as put forth by Isaiah the prophet:

"Behold, My Servant, whom I uphold; My chosen one in whom My soul delights. I have put My Spirit upon Him; He will bring forth justice to the nations. He will not cry out or raise His voice, nor make His voice heard in the street. A bruised reed He will not break and a dimly burning wick He will not extinguish; He will faithfully bring forth justice." (Isaiah 42:1-3)

I have thought about alternative issues that Paul might have used if he were writing this passage in today's world. Try some of these out for size:

If your brother or sister is being injured by your music, you are no longer walking in love. Do not let your music cause the ruin of one for whom Christ died.

If your brother or sister is being injured by you raising your hands during worship, you are no longer walking in love. Do not let your expressive worship cause the ruin of one for whom Christ died.

If your brother or sister is being injured by the things you do on the Sabbath, you are no longer walking in love. Do not let your freedom from legalism cause the ruin of one for whom Christ died.

I know what kinds of triggers these examples can immediately stir up in many people. The same things rise up in me as well. I feel a sense of resentment and irritation that my relationship and freedom to worship my God in ways that are “more advanced” and connect me with Him in a deeper way than I used to feel safe to do are now somehow off-limits to me under certain situations simply because someone else's narrow thinking extends into my personal space. It just doesn't seem fair or right! Why do I have to be dragged back into the environment of legalistic, rigid dark emotions and restrictions because of someone else's immaturity? Something inside of me strongly rebels at such a suggestion.

But then I have to suspect that it is precisely this spirit of rebellion and resentment that Paul is talking about right here in this passage. The rest of this chapter intensifies the message of this verse and becomes unavoidable if I am to be honest in listening to the conviction of the true Spirit of God. If I do not want to distort the message of God to my heart, which is always an extremely dangerous thing to do, then I have to face squarely the “religious” spirit of rebellion inside my flesh and allow it to be exposed for the counterfeit that it is and be crucified.

Does this mean that I have to give up all the wonderful freedoms and insights and joy that I have been increasingly experiencing in my growing intimacy with God because other more immature people condemn these things? Not at all! That is not the point here at all. Paul never wavers in his own personal belief about the rightness or wrongness of the particular beliefs in dispute in these illustrations. In fact he goes to some length to emphasize that he personally is not bothered in the least by things that are a really big issue for others who are so easily offended.

So this is not an instruction to revert back to old legalistic patterns of thinking or adopt the prejudices and bigotry of those we are not to offend. We need to see these problems clearly for what they are and continue to become more free from them ourselves, but never with any trace of a spirit of contempt. But in the process there is something even more important that is not to be missed. It is the issue of the condition of the heart and the spirit, both ours and theirs. For in God's eyes it is never right to have the right facts but carry them around with the wrong spirit, a spirit that wounds the hearts of other honest seekers after God.

But really now, this is a principle that is almost easier to accept in the secular world for decent, polite people than it is to accept in the spiritual realm. If we go to another country with radically different customs and norms we usually, if we are a considerate person at all, will try to find out ahead of time how to adjust our behavior and speech and how to relate to people in a way that is not unnecessarily offensive to them. It is simply common courtesy to try to adapt our ways and suspend our usual behaviors that they might find offensive while we are around them so as not to insult their sensitivities.

But when it comes to spiritual politeness, why is it so hard to have that same attitude? Why is it that it is so easy to overlook the sensitivities of someone who does not see God or worship Him the same way that we do right now? Why do we think we have the right to just do whatever we want without reference to offending the feelings of others and arousing suspicion and prejudice in their minds?

I don't have all the answers for these questions. I do appreciate the newfound freedom to be able to pose real questions without feeling obliged to have them resolved immediately. I know that God is faithful and will bring more insight and resolution as I rest in His tutelage. But is it becoming rather clear in my marination in this passage that it is clearly my responsibility in God's opinion that I need to avoid as much as possible unnecessarily offending others spiritually whenever possible. When I am not around them I can still enjoy all the freedoms that I have been learning to accept myself and even desire to have much more.

On the flip side of this I am also aware at times of the offended feelings that sometimes stir up in my own heart whenever someone else does or says things that I feel are too liberal, too conservative, too radical or whatever. At those times I am reminded that maybe they may not even know that I am being offended or maybe they have not been convicted of the message from this passage. But one thing is for sure, they are not my project to fix or reprove. They are accountable to God personally just as I am, and my responsibility is first and foremost for my own attitude and spirit in the presence of God. I am the one who has to give my account to God for my choices and attitudes.

I also remind myself that years ago if I had met a person like the person I now have become that I would have been very offended by some of the things that I now so much enjoy and thrive on doing. Things that now deeply enhance and enrich my intimacy with God I would have found quite offensive and repulsive in previous years. Ironically some of that previous “person” still lurks inside of hidden, dark corners of my mind yet today and is still secretly offended by some of the things I so much enjoy now.

I have seen some of the damaging effects of the behavior and spirit of people who put far more emphasis on being right than on being gentle and accommodating in the spirit of Jesus. These kind of people usually declare that accommodation is nothing but compromise with evil and they will have nothing to do with it. However, that spirit and way of relating to others is in direct contradiction to the real lesson of this chapter. God clearly puts far more priority on the choices and actions that affect the heart than on how right or wrong we are factually or in our success at rule-keeping. This is demonstrated in the illustration Jesus told about the final day of exposure.

"Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. Many will say to me on that day, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and in your name drive out demons and perform many miracles?' Then I will tell them plainly, 'I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!' (Matthew 7:21-23 NIV)

And just what is the will of the Father in heaven?

So then let us pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another. Do not tear down the work of God for the sake of (food, music,worship style, clothes – you fill in the blank). (Romans 14:19-20)

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Judgment and Worship

It is written: "'As surely as I live,' says the Lord, 'every knee will bow before me; every tongue will confess to God.'" (Romans 14:11 NIV)

I am starting to see more clearly now that the choices I make about what I believe about God and what He is like determine the outcome of my own salvation. The Great War between evil and good, between Christ and Satan revolves around the opinions of all those caught up in this battle about what God is really like. We are all trapped in this war and have no option to get out of it. We can only go through it to the very climax. But each one of us has the freedom to chose which side we will believe and that choice will determine the results that will be seen worked out in our life and our eternal destiny.

One of the important things to remember when seeking to understand these passages is to pay attention to the real meaning of the important words and realize that most of our assumed meanings are often decoys to keep us off target. Worship is one of those things that is little understood but is immensely significant and appears to be the real subject of this verse. One of the most important things about real worship is the spontaneous nature of it. Worship is not really worship if it is coerced or extracted. Worship is an activity of the heart and as such has it roots much deeper than our conscious activity or control. We may be able to perform outward acts of worship and appear to be worshiping, but real worship always springs from the affections of the heart at much deeper levels.

When God says that every knee will bow and every tongue will confess to God, He is not describing any forced compliance with His demands that He has to be worshiped. That is never the kind of worship that He will accept or is interested in in the slightest. But God is so amazingly wise and patient in this very long and tragic experiment with sin that Lucifer started, that He knows that in spite of all the lies and deceptions and slander and distortions about Him, that in the end the lies will all come unraveled and the real truth about His perfect goodness, love, forgiveness and fairness will emerge above it all and will eclipse every deception of the enemy. This is the wisdom of God and this is the reason that every being that ever existed will one day unite in complete submission to the real truth about God and will willingly offer real worship to Him and acknowledge that His ways are right and fair and that there is no other way that can work. Lucifer's lies will be forever completely exposed and will never again have any power to deceive anyone. The light of the real truth about God will be clearer and brighter than at any time before in the existence of the universe and everyone will be permanently inoculated against ever desiring to rebel again.

It is this same truth about God that works in our lives today to attract us to prepare for this great day of real Judgment. For it is not enough to just be brought to the place of willingly acknowledging the real truth about God and giving Him the worship due to Him. All of the lost along with all of the fallen angels turned demons will also participate in this great day of real worship and confessional praise. But I certainly do not want to be in their midst on that day of worship. The worship that comes from those who are lost will not last very long because they have destroyed their capacity to love God in response to His love for them. And there is nothing more torturous than being intensely loved while being unable to love in return. That is the very essence of why hell will be so hellish.

What I noticed this morning was how closely the two quotations that Paul uses from the Old Testament are linked together. The previous one is found in 12:20 where Paul describes the essence of God's ways of dealing with sin and vengeance. It is in essence part of a definition of the wrath of God.

On the contrary: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head." (Romans 12:20 NIV)

Notice the clear results of these acts of kindness that we are commanded to use against those who are our enemies. The result of using God's kindness against those who abuse and hurt you is the producing of coals of fire. These are the very same coals of fire that constitute the fires of hell. And this is one of the best descriptions that can be seen as to how God is going to resolve the problem of sin in His universe. He will not eliminate sin by the use of force, through acts that are designed to instill fear in our hearts or through any other means invented by His archenemy. He does not have to adjust the way He deals with others and He did not have to come up with new ways to relate to His creatures when sin entered. It that were true then Satan's original charges would be proven to be true, for Lucifer insisted that there were flaws in God's ways of dealing with His created beings and that Lucifer had a better alternative. We can now see the results of his “better alternative” and it is quite obvious to most that it is not better in the least. But we are so blind to the better original plan and the character of God that we still refuse to believe that God's ways are really better and more attractive than the ways of this world.

The whole plan of salvation is the unveiling of the real truth about God in His attempt to attract as many as possible to become His experiments of grace. For if He is given permission by any individual, He will take them on as His unique and special project and will transform them back into His own image to reflect His perfect goodness, love and joy. As they allow Him to do His work in their hearts and minds by continuing to give Him ongoing permission, He will perfect His own character in their lives until they perfectly reflect His beauty and are filled with the passion that emanates from His own heart. They will glow with the spirit of love that is described in this verse and will be prepared to worship Him not only on the final day of Judgment but will be learning to truly worship Him more often even now.

Part of this transformation involves letting go of all judgment against those around me and embracing them as brothers and sisters in Christ. Chapter 14 is a description in part of this process of transformation and reveals some of the false ways of thinking and feeling that need to be let go of as the Spirit of God convicts me. As I focus my attention on God and the real truth about His character and the way He interacts with me, I will be more and more transformed into treating others the way God treats me and will lay aside all judgment and contempt.

This also makes more plain the truth that God never indulges in any of this counterfeit activity of judgment either. God does not tell me to not judge others and then turn around and do it Himself. God is my perfect example, not the exceptions to His requirements for me. It is a tragic mistake to believe that we are never to judge each other but that it will be O.K. for God to do it. God never employs the methods of His enemy and neither should I. The true kind of judgment that God uses is radically different than the condemning kind of judgment that I am warned against here. Counterfeit judgment involves shame and fear and condemnation. True judgment is the natural process of revealing what is hidden by simply introducing light and allowing the real truth to be seen as a result of that light.

This is precisely why God knows that at some point in time every person will willingly worship and confess to Him. (Remember, confession simply means agreeing with.) That is because light always ultimately wins over darkness. Darkness simply does not have what it takes to keep things hidden. When light is increased enough the darkness simply has to evaporate in its presence. But God values freedom so obsessively that He allows all the time it takes for every person to make up their own minds as to whom they will believe. And the issue that this belief is about is what we are going to believe about God.

I used to be very confused and frustrated when I read the books by the apostle John. He repeatedly said that Jesus' response to people looking for truth or eternal life was to tell them to “believe”. But often it was not clear at all to me what He was asking them to believe. He might say something like, believe on the Son of Man, but that still did not really make sense to me.

Then a few years ago it began to dawn on me what this really meant as my own picture of God began to radically shift. One of Jesus' claims was that He was the perfect representation of what God is like. So when He told people to believe in Him, He was really asking them to believe that the way He treated people and related to us is exactly what God is like and demonstrates the real truth of how God feels about us. He is really begging us to let go of our many lies about God and to believe the truth about God as revealed in the life and teachings of Jesus.

Jesus came to expose and challenge our terribly distorted ideas about God. We still cling to many of those false ideas and He is still pleading with us to let go of these lies. The more clearly I perceive the real truth about what God is like and how He feels about me the more attracted I am to wanting to know more about Him and to become like Him. This has certainly not been my experience for much of my life. I spent a great share of my life living in fear and hidden hatred for God while desperately trying to perform good enough to stave off as much of His wrath as possible. That was a very exhausting kind of religion that I want to become totally free from as soon as possible.

I am now beginning to experience a new kind of Christianity, a very personal and intimate relationship that is growing, interactive and uncomfortably out of control at times. I have to remind myself that I am His project and not the other way around. Therefore it is not important for me to be in control but to simply listen and cooperate with whatever He wants to share with me at the moment. I am experiencing much more peace in this relational-based spirituality than I ever dreamed possible in my performance-based religion in which I spent so many years. I am learning to overcome fears instead of looking for more. I am slowly (way too slowly) learning to lighten up and try to allow my heart to breathe and thrive and blossom in an atmosphere of love and safety in the presence of God. As a result I am starting to understand more of the true meaning of worship.

As I see more clearly the real truth about God, that He treats everyone with love and respect, that His wrath is radically different than our assumptions about that word, that He loves His enemies and never reverses that love – ever, then my desire to bow my knees in willing worship becomes more real and my willingness to confess and agree with the convictions of His Spirit becomes easier. As I immerse myself in His Word and fill my mind with His truths I find my heart becoming more alive and more synchronized with His ways and with His true family both in heaven and here on earth.

As a result I choose to continue to offer more praise to Him for the wonderful revelations He has been sharing with me. I chose to honor Him by allowing Him more access to my heart and life so that He can more perfectly cause me to reflect His kind of goodness and character. I offer my praise and gratitude to Him for His amazing kindness, grace and unconditional forgiveness. And as I embrace that forgiveness and reflect it to those who have hurt and offended my own spirit, I experience more and more freedom from the heaviness that I have lived under for most of my life.

Thank-you Jesus!

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Judgment, Relationships and Light

For to this end Christ died and lived again, that He might be Lord both of the dead and of the living. But you, why do you judge your brother? Or you again, why do you regard your brother with contempt? For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God. (Romans 14:9-10)

This whole passage is a correctionary warning to avoid staying trapped within the false system of the world that I have called “hierarchy” or “kingship”. This is the whole, pervasive mindset of comparing everyone with each other or measuring people according to many and various artificial standards to determine their relative value. It is the acts of discrimination in all of its myriad forms that we daily practice all over the world. It is so ingrained within our psyche that it is difficult to even realize when we are doing it much of the time, but it is part of the problem of judging that is being addressed in this chapter.

But when we begin to measure others, or even ourselves for that matter, instead of accepting God's declarations about our worth and equality in His eyes, then we are indulging in the counterfeit system invented by Satan, the master accuser of the brethren. And in setting ourself up as judge we are also usurping the parental role of our Father in heaven and are trying to claim authority that does not belong to us.

In these verses we are reminded that we are all brothers and sisters in the family of God and as such are all equally loved, valued and cherished in His eyes. But we are also warned here that it is wrong to try to change that status by attempting to elevate our own perceived position and think that we are somehow better or more important than others around us. There is only one true Lord and we must remember that we are not Lord. In fact, whenever we attempt to lord it over someone by viewing them with contempt, criticism and judgment, we are really rejecting God and Christ from being our own Lord in the process.

I see these verses as a clear call to constant attention to realign ourselves to the position in which we are called to serve, as brothers and sisters to all around us with abstinence from trying to play God in their lives. It is a reminder to re-engage in filling our lives and hearts with the love that Jesus taught and to be filled with the servant-spirit that Jesus demonstrated.

When I really begin to be filled with a true spirit of humility as that that filled the heart and mind of Jesus, then I will have the joyful freedom in Christ that will keep me from wanting to judge my brothers and sisters and thus play God with their hearts. I will remember that we all have only one Lord and Judge and that it is never my responsibility to expose or point out the faults of anyone else, whether in an attempt to coerce them to change or to make myself look better by contrast. I am here to encourage, to lift up, to come alongside others who have similar struggles and temptations that I do and treat them as Jesus treated sinners when He was here on earth and still does yet today. I must leave all judgment up to God because God is the only one in the universe capable of exercising the real kind of judgment in a way that is most redemptive.

The problem with humans trying to judge each other is that we cannot be completely free of twisted views and ideas about judgment and so our selfishness and pride always contaminates our attempts in this arena. That is why Paul stated unequivocally in Romans 12:19 that we must leave all revenge in God's hands. God knows all about how to deal with sin and it is radically different than the way we think it should be done. But when it is all said and done every intelligent being throughout the whole universe will be completely satisfied that God did it fairly and in perfect love without any force or coercion of any kind.

And that is precisely what is wrong with our methods of judgment. The way we judge others is a subtle or not so subtle means of trying to coerce them into changing somehow. We use shame or imposed guilt, threats or all sorts of invalid means of trying to force others to change their ways and align themselves to be more like us (which is really the real purpose of judgment). But since we are all sinners and full of faults of our own, to pressure others into becoming more like us is only to try to get them to become more like our style of sinner instead of their style.

Instead, we must come alongside all of our brothers and sisters and together seek God's face and to know much clearer the real truth about God so that in being judged by Him we will be drawn to become more like His perfect character free of all condemnation and fear. When we choose to properly relate to God and to each other, then judgment will begin to lose its grip of fearfulness in our hearts and we will begin to desire to enter into true judgment for ourselves on a regular basis.

The sins of some men are quite evident, going before them to judgment; for others, their sins follow after. Likewise also, deeds that are good are quite evident, and those which are otherwise cannot be concealed. (1 Timothy 5:24-25)

This is along the line of the true kind of judgment that is God's way. True judgment is simply arranging things in such a way that the true motives and secrets of the heart are revealed for all to see. It does not involve force or arbitrary pronouncements over groveling subjects. It is an inward conviction that can no longer be avoided and an enlightening of the heart and mind that exposes all the dark things of deception behind which we have hidden for all of our lives. Light always brings judgment, not through the means of force but by the principle inherent in light itself.

This is the judgment, that the Light has come into the world, and men loved the darkness rather than the Light, for their deeds were evil. For everyone who does evil hates the Light, and does not come to the Light for fear that his deeds will be exposed. But he who practices the truth comes to the Light, so that his deeds may be manifested as having been wrought in God. (John 3:19-21)

If we try to act as original light to expose someone around us by judging them or viewing them with contempt, we are trying to act as an Antichrist. Instead, we must focus on aiming our mirrors on Jesus and allowing His perfect light to shine through our lives and hearts and simply allow natural judgment to happen wherever God desires without any pressure from us. As the true Light from Jesus flows through our lives, judgment will begin to happen all around us. But we must always refrain from the temptation of trying to make it happen on our own. Only light from the sacred fire of God can bring about healthy, transformative judgment in the ways that God intends. We must never introduce strange fire into the work of God in our midst.

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Judging and Holiness

...Each person must be fully convinced in his own mind. He who observes the day, observes it for the Lord, and he who eats, does so for the Lord, for he gives thanks to God; and he who eats not, for the Lord he does not eat, and gives thanks to God. For not one of us lives for himself, and not one dies for himself; for if we live, we live for the Lord, or if we die, we die for the Lord; therefore whether we live or die, we are the Lord's. For to this end Christ died and lived again, that He might be Lord both of the dead and of the living. (Romans 14:5-9)

As I read this passage again this morning I was reminded of the very insightful teaching on the word “holy” that I heard from Craig Hill of Family Foundations. He pointed out that the true concept in this word “holy” does not so much mean good or righteous or pious as we often associate with it, but it simply means exclusive dedication to something or someone else for their use. Holiness, therefore, must always have an object toward which it is focused.

Now I am seeing this very concept clearly spelled out in these verses in Romans 14. The need to be fully convinced in our mind is the very same idea as being fully dedicated in the word “holy”. And this makes sense since we are called to be a holy people before God. Without holiness no one can see God and live. But that holiness is not a self-generated piety or perfection by which we get ourselves finally good enough to convince God to let us into His presence. It is a total and exclusive dedication of our complete being in pure abandon to the will and ways and authority of God in our lives.

Notice in this passage how many times the phrase for the Lord is repeated. It is also interesting to note that this phrase applies equally to people who have sharp differences of opinions about certain religious subjects. And yet Paul is stressing very much here that we absolutely must not view anyone with contempt because they hold a different opinion about some point differing from ours. He even goes on to say that God is quite able and will make them stand, independent of our opinions about their beliefs. What this is really saying is the same thing that is found in the true meaning of “holiness”, that the object of our focus and attention and devotion is to be exclusively the Lord.

I took up this phrase about being fully convinced in our own minds a few days ago and wondered what deeper implications might be uncovered in it. I am now seeing some of those deeper implications. To be fully convinced in my own mind is very important, but at the same time it is even more important what the object of that conviction is. I have seen too many tragic examples of those who are fully convinced of their own opinions and subsequently view with contempt anyone who differs with them while strenuously trying to convince others of their own opinions. But when I compare this passage with what I learned about true holiness I see that the object of my being fully convinced is to be found in an exclusive devotion to God as my Lord, not to an opinion that becomes my slave-master.

In this passage I am clearly instructed that whatever beliefs I hold need to come from a total submission and devotion and relationship with God that is greater than any belief or opinions that I may hold. This reinforces the growing conviction I have had that my spirit and my relationship with God must always trump my ability to prove that I am right or the accuracy of my opinions. And furthermore I must definitely avoid taking the next step and spend time criticizing others and dwell on how I think they are wrong. This chapter is a blatant warning against going down this path.

Quite apparently the Christians that Paul was writing to must have had a problem with this divisive activity and unfortunately nothing has changed much today. It is still all too easy a temptation to fall into by growing Christians (that be all Christians) who find it a challenge to keep their focus on their own relationship with God and off of comparing themselves with others in the body. But what I am seeing in these verses is that the far more important aspect that I must focus on is my relationship with Jesus who died and rose to life again in order that I and He might have this exclusive relationship of holiness with each other.

This is spelled out very clearly in the words for this end Christ died and lived again, that He might be Lord. This tells me that at least one of the main reasons He did what He did when He came to this earth was to be able to establish that unique kind of relationship with each one of us. Verse five says in the original language that very specifically, individually, each one in particular apart from what anyone around them does, needs to be fully convinced, or to be exclusively dedicated themselves to engage in a holy-kind of relationship with this Lord, the Christ, the Savior in their own mind.

Verse eight is also very enlightening in this respect. One of the true definitions of a genuine Christian is a person who no longer lives or even dies for themselves. This addresses the issue of self-survival that is an inherent instinct in all of us. But Jesus said that those who want real life must let go of their desperate grasp on life in order to achieve real life. If we try to stay in the mode of self-justification, self-defense, self-promotion and comparing ourselves with others to determine how valuable we are, we will not be able to enter into the eternal life that Jesus came to offer us.

If we find ourselves judging others or viewing them with contempt it is very likely that we are slipping back into a mode of living for ourselves again and are no longer resting in that exclusive, holy relationship with our Lord who is able to make us stand. We are not only putting stumbling blocks and obstacles in the paths of those around us but we are also creating or exposing faults within our own lives that we will be required to give an account of in the day of final Judgment ourselves.

This sheds light on verse ten as well. If judging someone else in the body of believers creates an issue within my own heart for which I must give account to my own Lord in judgment, then why would I do such a thing? In fact, now that I think about this a little bit, the thing I may be required to give account for is my attempt to usurp the role of judge in someone else's life. So how am I going to explain to the true Judge of all the universe why I thought I was capable of taking His place and doing His job for Him in someone else's life? What gives me the illusion that I can meddle in someone else's relationship with their Master and Lord? What makes me think I have that kind of authority over their relationship with God?

This is getting stickier and stickier the more I think about it. This is very similar to me attempting to step in and try to micromanage and advise and control how someone else's spouse should relate to their partner in marriage, especially when my own marriage is far short of ideal. It actually might be very tempting for me and for many others to do that very thing, but it would also be ludicrous if I have my head on straight at all. It is never my place to try to control how another person should relate to their husband or wife. And likewise it is never my place to attempt to control or manipulate someone else's intimate relationship with their lover and Lord, Jesus their Savior.

I have to confess that these warnings and instructions are all too applicable to me. I wish that was not the case, but it is true. I am all to easily tempted to judge others and view them with contempt and try to manipulate their relationship with the Lord. I may do so because I am comparing their opinions and beliefs with my own instead of paying closer attention to listening to the Spirit communicating to me from my own Lord. That means I am meddling instead of serving, and that will always end in disaster.

Lord, keep reminding me that I have far too many issues and faults of my own to spend time dwelling on those of others. Remind me that the most important thing for me to focus on at all times is to be in right relationship to You as my Lord and not try to lord it over someone else through contempt, fault-finding and a critical attitude. I likely do these kinds of things because I still don't have a grasp at the heart level of how much You value me, and so I try to make myself feel more valuable by comparing myself with others that I think are less right than me. Forgive me for doing this so often and change the way I think and the way I perceive others. Give me the eyes of heaven and Your heart of love and compassion to see others with the same infinite worth and value that You see in them. And help me to really grasp how much You value and cherish me so that I will not be so tempted to compare other's opinions with mine and judge them with contempt.

Thank-you Father, for not treating me the way I have treated others so many times. If You judged me like I judge others I would be overwhelmed with discouragement and depression and would have given up on our relationship many years ago. Please get me off this addiction quickly and heal whatever is inside me that continues to feed on this sin. Cleanse me from all unrighteousness and cause me to reflect more perfectly Your glory and Your grace so that others will be more attracted to wanting You as their Lord.

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Accounting for Who?

...For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God. So then each one of us will give an account of himself to God. (Romans 14:10, 12)

For a number of months now I have been compiling and digesting information from various sources that help me to more clearly understand the two kinds of judgment. There is a counterfeit form of judgment that is the kind that most people think of whenever the word judgment is used. In fact, counterfeit judgment is so pervasive in our thinking that even when we talk about the judgment of God which is the true kind of judgment, we make many assumptions about it that infuse false ideas from our distorted views about judgment that we are more familiar with.

The problem is exacerbated by the fact that the words used are the same for both. It is one of those instances where language itself becomes part of the problem and so a lot of extra explanation must take place and a lot of qualifications and clarifications need to happen during the process of examination in order to understand the differences between the two. But once it becomes more clear what the differences are it is much easier to see the contrast between the righteousness of God's judgment and the destructive, debilitating nature of false judgment which is about all most of us are familiar with.

Most of this chapter thus far has talked almost exclusively about the false or counterfeit kind of judgment. As such, we are repeatedly warned about the pitfalls of indulging in this kind of judging which God never participates in. Paul brings this passage to a head with the climaxing statement: Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather determine this – not to put an obstacle or a stumbling block in a brother's way. (Romans 14:13)

It becomes even more clear in this last verse what the true nature of counterfeit judgment is all about. False judgment places obstacles and stumbling blocks in people's ways and inhibits their ability to come closer to God and to each other. Because of the nature of this activity it is quite clear that false judgment is from the enemy of God and is something none of us should ever participate in. And yet we find ourselves slipping into this mode of thinking and speaking so easily and unconsciously much of the time. And that is why it is so important to awaken our hearts and train our minds with the clear warnings and instructions of this passage.

But tucked into the middle of this chapter is a reference to the true kind of judgment that happens when God executes justice. Paul talks about the day of Judgment when everyone without exception is going to appear before the real Judgment Seat of God, the only true Judge. If we want to know what real, valid judgment looks like it might be helpful to carefully examine what goes on during the time of true judgment. And we find that right here in this verse.

First of all, we are shown the results that naturally will take place whenever true judgment happens. When true judgment occurs, those who are judged will do at least two things according to verse eleven: they will willingly bow their knees in submission to the superiority to the one and only true God and secondly they will use their own mouth to give praise to God who alone is worthy of all praise.

Next we are shown how each person will relate to the conditions that cause true judgment to happen. For whatever reason, and I believe we need to learn why, each one will give an account of himself to God. The reason behind this must be very carefully examined without introducing elements and assumptions from our false ideas of judgment into the picture. But very clearly this is what will take place when true judgment occurs. Notice that it is not God imposing His determinations about people onto them. It says that each person will himself give the account. This is consistent with the immense value that God places on personal freedom and His respect for our power of free choice. Each person makes their own choices and then finds themselves in a position where they feel they must confess the true reasons and motives for those choices.

I think that we might be able to learn some things about counterfeit judgment by contrasting it with real judgment. In true judgment it says that we will give an account of ourself to God. False judging places obstacles in the lives of others. So inherent in the very nature of false judgment I see that it is focused on attempting to possibly involve ourselves in accounting for other people instead of ourselves. Maybe we are even trying to pretend to be in relationship to them as their judge instead of helping them get properly aligned and prepared for the real kind of judgment. That sounds very much like the blame and shame game that Satan introduced into the human race in the Garden of Eden.

There are a number of compelling reasons to refrain from false judgment. False judgment does not lead a person to spontaneously submit to God's sovereignty. False judgment will not produce genuine praise and gratitude and admiration toward God. Counterfeit judging will tend to illicit a response of a like spirit in the person, a defensiveness that damages their perception of the truth about God and creates fear in their heart. Contempt and false judging creates the wrong spirit in a person and induces unnecessary pain in the heart of those accused that causes them to draw away from God instead of learning to trust and appreciate Him more.

I still plan to take some time to lay out the clear differences between true and counterfeit judgment and I hope to do it very soon. It is helping me to clear up many things in my own mind and heart as I process through and examine carefully the issues and problems involved in this subject. The more I learn about the true kind of judgment the more exciting it is but the more I realize that much of the time I am not in harmony with the ways of God on this issue. But the more I implement the principles of true judgment the easier it is for others to see the real truth about God and be attracted to His heart of love. True judgment always results in glory and praise being given to God.

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