And just as Moses lifted up the
serpent in the wilderness, so must the Son of Man be lifted up, that
whoever believes in him may have eternal life. For God so loved the
world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him
may not perish but may have eternal life. Indeed, God did not send
the Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the
world might be saved through him. Those who believe in him are not
condemned; but those who do not believe are condemned already,
because they have not believed in the name of the only Son of God.
And this is the judgment, that the light has come into the world, and
people loved darkness rather than light because their deeds were
evil. For all who do evil hate the light and do not come to the
light, so that their deeds may not be exposed. But those who do what
is true come to the light, so that it may be clearly seen that their
deeds have been done in God. (John 3:14-21 NRSV)
This concept of reversing magnetism
in relation to debts or offenses that we have been learning about is
still opening up new insights to me. The concept of proportional
repulsion or attraction that is linked to the level of the
original debt which of course is reversed by an equal amount of
forgiveness has even more interesting and compelling implications.
Therefore, I tell you, her sins,
which were many, have been forgiven; hence she has shown great love.
But the one to whom little is forgiven, loves little. (Luke 7:47
NRSV)
If a person owes a great debt and is
forgiven as was the case with the debtor in Matthew 18, there is
potential for an enormously powerful attraction if the
forgiveness is believed and embraced. Unfortunately that
debtor never embraced the reality of his forgiveness and as a result
his sense of obligation was never relieved.
This is what alerts me to another
effect of this principle. Even though the tension pushing them apart
was very high because of the enormity of the debt and that tension
was intended to be transformed into an equally compelling
attraction through the reversing power of forgiveness on the part
of the king, because there was no faith exercised by the debtor
he never entered into the bonding that the king had intended for him.
This is telling me that the key
ingredient in this transforming act of forgiveness is the faith
of the person being forgiven – faith in the person who has forgiven
them.
Therefore leaving the elementary
teaching about the Christ, let us press on to maturity, not laying
again a foundation of repentance from dead works and of faith toward
God... (Hebrews 6:1)
If a person refuses to believe in
the forgiveness,
then by default he is choosing to
believe the opposite which only
continues the offense and even deepens
it.
Unbelief is really clinging
to suspicions about the character and intentions of the creditor.
In addition the person rejecting the
reality of the forgiveness is
going to feel even more guilt, shame
and condemnation.
But this is not because they are no
longer forgiven but rather that
in their mind the opinion about the one
forgiving them is propelled into even deeper suspicion.
They are quickly moving away from
reality and in their deceived mind the only option left is to believe
evil about the person seeking reconciliation. This is what the Bible
terms the hardening of the heart.
Now I am seeing that the principle of
proportion is still at work. Originally this principle can describe
the proportion of love and affection as linked to the level of
forgiveness experienced as we saw with Jesus' reference to Mary and
Simon.
But when forgiveness is refused
through unbelief then
the law of proportion works in the
reverse direction.
When our mind insists that we are
not really forgiven after we have been educated that we are,
then we will experience some or all of
the following symptoms and many more.
We will go into deep denial that
we owe any debt whatsoever and simply try to blot it out of our
thinking. Of course this is hard to do when evidences of the facts
keep haunting us and especially when we get around the person whom we
have rejected.
We may fall into deep despair
and feel terror of impending punishment.
We may become paralyzed with fear
and become paranoid about even little things as we suffer from the
consequences of living outside of grace.
For if we willfully persist in sin
after having received the knowledge of the truth, there no longer
remains a sacrifice for sins, but a fearful prospect of judgment, and
a fury of fire that will consume the adversaries. (Hebrews
10:26-27 NRSV)
We may also try to suffocate our
feelings of fear and guilt by
throwing ourselves into a frenzy of
work to pay off our debt even though if we were rational (which
is less and less under these circumstances) we know that this is an
absolute impossibility. Apparently that is what this debtor tried to
do.
However, any and all of these options
will still leave us experiencing
the principle of proportional
suffering determined by the size of our debt.
Yet sadly all of these things are
completely needless
because forgiveness is a continuous
reality that is always present and we can embrace it at any
moment.
This is exactly what causes much of our
problem with God.
Because most of us believe that
forgiveness is conditional with God
we are trying to work off our debts
to Him and
are living in unbelief about His
assurances of forgiveness.
Some of us live in constant terror of
punishment and
many Christians assume that this is
supposed to be normal.
We have embraced the lies about God
circulated by His great accuser and
we suppose that God wants to keep a
certain level of fear in our hearts
to motivate us to keep in line with His
rules.
But this is a scheme of the enemy to
prevent us from entering into the rest and the love that Jesus came
to give us.
The real problem is that as long as we
cling to our false ideas
we often absorb from religion or
culture about God and salvation,
we are really storing up the very
fuel of wrath inside of ourselves
that will serve to destroy us when the
real loving God shows up in person.
But because we cling to false
assumptions about Him,
then when we see His passionate love up
close
we will feel that our greatest fears
are confirmed for
we will interpret the passion we
see on His face as anger instead of love and forgiveness.
This is what is behind the cry of those
who have clung to lies about Him as recorded in Revelation who are
calling to the mountains and rocks, "Fall on us and hide us
from the face of the one seated on the throne and from the wrath of
the Lamb. (Revelation 6:16 NRSV)
Truly our greatest danger is unbelief.
Unbelief in the reality of forgiveness
prevents us from experiencing the magnetic drawing of our gracious
God into deep bonding with His passionate heart of love.
Unbelief in the truth about how God
feels about us and how He treats sinners blocks us from properly
interpreting the passion on His face.
Unbelief hardens our hearts and
distorts our perceptions of reality until our thinking becomes
completely backwards from what is real.
And this is the judgment, that the
light has come into the world, and people loved darkness rather than
light...
So what is your story? Who has been
cruel to you? Perhaps bitterly cruel. What injustice have you
suffered? How have you been mistreated? Perhaps miserably so. Who has
cheated you? Abused you? Mistreated you? Lied to you? Lied about
you? Maybe it was last week. Maybe it was a lifetime ago. As you
remember your suffered injustice, how does it affect the way you view
the future? Or let me put it another way: What are you waiting for?
Are you waiting to get even? A chance for payback? An opportunity to
exact your revenge? If so, you have no future.
You may get even, you may achieve
payback, you may gain your revenge, but you will stay forever
chained to the injustice done to you. You are in danger of
forming your identity around your injustice in such a way that it
forever shapes your future. Even if you get even, you will still drag
that ball and chain with you. In looking for an opportunity to be
cruel to the person who was cruel to you, you will become a cruel
person. And in becoming a cruel person, your cruelty will, in all
likelihood, not be limited to the person or persons who have treated
you cruelly. In seeking the opportunity to repay cruelty with
cruelty, cruelty will become your identity, your lifestyle, and your
character. Tragically, you will do the very thing you hate: you will
inflict cruel injustice upon others.
Worse
yet, you will become the very thing you hate. This is how evil
perpetuates itself. This is how evil moves from host to host until
the whole world lies in the power of the evil one. Evil is only
defeated when someone absorbs the blow and forgives, thus ending the
cycle of evil. Absorbing the blow without retaliation by
exercising the option to forgive
is not weakness or acquiescence with injustice; it is taking up your
cross and following Jesus. It is following Jesus to Calvary, and
there ending evil through the triumph of forgiveness. Forgiveness is
not weakness; it is the power of God – the power of God to overcome
evil by depriving evil of a host for retaliation. (Unconditional
p.83-84)
And his lord, moved with anger,
handed him over to the torturers until he should
repay all that was owed him. My heavenly Father will also do the same
to you, if each of you does not forgive his brother from your heart.
(Matthew 18:34-35)
The choice is ours – yours and mine.
Our choice will be influenced and will
in turn shape our views of how God views us and treats us.
Our choice in this matter determines
our eternal destiny, not because God will punish or reward us
but because there are natural principles at work here that
have their unavoidable consequences.
Belief in the truth as it is in
Jesus will unlock our heart
and will use the principle of
proportions to draw us inexorably into
the atmosphere of heaven where real
healing will begin.
Our
assurance of how much we are really loved and forgiven will work
to effect real transformation from the
inside out.
Belief opens our heart to feel
the passion of God firsthand
which in turn energizes us to feel more
alive, to feel worth and value and discover our true identity as
designed by God.
Belief allows Jesus to enter into and
permeate our lives,
to dwell in us and to impart His divine
nature into our humanity
so that His life will be reproduced in
our daily lives and in our interactions with others.
Forgiveness is a reality that is
irrevocable.
God's love for us is a constant reality
that is unstoppable, unavoidable and cannot be diminished.
The deciding factor that determines
whether we will enter into abundant life
or will experience our greatest
fears is our choice of how we will respond to these
truths.
The power of our mind to create an
alternative reality is amazing and the decisions we make each day
about how we will relate to God's offer to transform us is what will
shape our opinions about Him which in turn affects our future
decisions about Him.
"Believe in the Lord Jesus, and
you will be saved, you and your household." (Acts 16:31)